"Friends..and Life"..My views after 2wks of life...
Hmm..it's been a while since i had something to share. Life's been great so far with everything that's happened..and furthermore, its fasting month. Today is the 2nd day of fasting liao..
Ok..let's see what i can share. For those who just started reading my blog..Pls note..
**Im not here to share my life..SORRY! Just here to share things i've learnt.**
Cos i feel that my life is not something i would like to go public with..HEHE..:p
The theme for my life these 2wks had been relationships..and the constant quest for improvements. So i will share what i have learnt during my time i AWOL from my bloggie..
These 2wks..i spent time on building relationships and improving myself..with my men, my friend and family. My men..i am the supposed 2IC of charlie company, 4th Battalion Singapore Infantry Regiment. I share the tasks with another 2IC..But it came to a point where our jobs are segregated into him taking the administrative role of a 2IC and me the ground role with the 84mmRR team under my jurisdiction. Hmm..it made me sort of 'jobless' and free..I dunno but it made a few people unhappy perhaps to see me having nothing too do most of the time? Hahaha..
But den, what can i do? Bulldoze myself into getting a job..Perhaps if i was SIAO ONZ! But naah.. im just sparing myself. (slacking in other words..) But i have never refused a call for help or an 'arrow' even. Most of the tym..im arrowed to cover the safety of troops during exercise..but did i ask for it? Most of the tym i would be preparing myself to slog out outfield till at the last minute where i find myself having to be the safety officer..and the rover is mine. When its time to do my job, i do it..when its not, i'll do my own stuffs. But then..i won't refuse to help unless its ridiculous!
The point im driving here is that people compare..i compare. But is it healthy. I agree that for grounds and means of checking where u stand and how much u need to achieve, it's OK..but i dun think comparing our jobs is fair. It's like comparing a triathlon runner with a chessmaster. Say, both are traing for a major world competition..the triathlete has to do a whole lot of physical conditioning but the chessmaster perhaps has to just, play chess. Sitting down most of the time. (Maybe he does exercise to keep fit..) But the amount of physical strain in comparison with the triathlete differs a LOT! And at the end when both wins..lets say US$2m as prize money..can u say the chessmaster doesn't deserve his prize?
Its no use comparing on different planes..the playing ground is different. Back to my life example.. our jobs are different. As a platoon commander and as a company 2IC..(esp when its dictated where my job scope lies..) ..both of these jobs are different! As with a policeman and a soldier and a teacher and a clerk and a librarian and even the bangla worker...all of them may possibly earn the same amount of allowance but the demands are different. Even in the same race..u compete in different lanes. The only legal direct contacts u can have with the one beside u is one of visual and sound. And what affects u is all mental..u control ur mind. Who can u blame? So why compare and be miserable?!
If u had read my earliest entry..regarding the Dalai Lama and the art of being happy at work.. one shld not compare. In the end its ur choice..ur mind is in ur control ( it should be).. U choose whether or not u want to be happy at work..u choose whether or not u want to BE happy cause in EVERY situation..it ALWAYS comes to 2 choices..positive or negative. U can choose to view 3D, 2D or flat!! And don't blame others for it..to be a victim of circumstances is to be your own victim. BE strong..in the end..life is about maintaining good relations. (In the working world..its abt making use of relations!!!)
I personally believe..u will be more willing to sacrifice for a friend than person u call boss..That's how i train my men and behave with them too. As a friend..and a leader, since that post was commissioned upon u..sincerity breaks barriers. (Its proven to me with Naj too..but i wun elaboarate on that. ) Here's what i got to pen down from my thoughts..
"Friendship..the reason to sacrifice..and the key to bonds. Friends are the closest thing u have besides family.. Basically, relationships starts with bonds..of friendship or love. Its an unwritten contract of trust, respect, sacrifice and partnership. Ultimately..your loved ones..when taken away the bonds of emotions and desires..is a close friend. Friendship is the foundation of every relationship."
So here i talk about friends and realtionships as well as a point on life improvement. Hope u reflect and share my perspective. Let's summarise..its no point comparing life and work if u are unhappy abt it. Everything in life comes down to 2 choices..u choose whether to be positive or pessimistic. Friends..its about maintaining good relationships. If it doesnt appeal to u..its ok..ITS A FREE WORLD BOSS!!
Ok..let's see what i can share. For those who just started reading my blog..Pls note..
**Im not here to share my life..SORRY! Just here to share things i've learnt.**
Cos i feel that my life is not something i would like to go public with..HEHE..:p
The theme for my life these 2wks had been relationships..and the constant quest for improvements. So i will share what i have learnt during my time i AWOL from my bloggie..
These 2wks..i spent time on building relationships and improving myself..with my men, my friend and family. My men..i am the supposed 2IC of charlie company, 4th Battalion Singapore Infantry Regiment. I share the tasks with another 2IC..But it came to a point where our jobs are segregated into him taking the administrative role of a 2IC and me the ground role with the 84mmRR team under my jurisdiction. Hmm..it made me sort of 'jobless' and free..I dunno but it made a few people unhappy perhaps to see me having nothing too do most of the time? Hahaha..
But den, what can i do? Bulldoze myself into getting a job..Perhaps if i was SIAO ONZ! But naah.. im just sparing myself. (slacking in other words..) But i have never refused a call for help or an 'arrow' even. Most of the tym..im arrowed to cover the safety of troops during exercise..but did i ask for it? Most of the tym i would be preparing myself to slog out outfield till at the last minute where i find myself having to be the safety officer..and the rover is mine. When its time to do my job, i do it..when its not, i'll do my own stuffs. But then..i won't refuse to help unless its ridiculous!
The point im driving here is that people compare..i compare. But is it healthy. I agree that for grounds and means of checking where u stand and how much u need to achieve, it's OK..but i dun think comparing our jobs is fair. It's like comparing a triathlon runner with a chessmaster. Say, both are traing for a major world competition..the triathlete has to do a whole lot of physical conditioning but the chessmaster perhaps has to just, play chess. Sitting down most of the time. (Maybe he does exercise to keep fit..) But the amount of physical strain in comparison with the triathlete differs a LOT! And at the end when both wins..lets say US$2m as prize money..can u say the chessmaster doesn't deserve his prize?
Its no use comparing on different planes..the playing ground is different. Back to my life example.. our jobs are different. As a platoon commander and as a company 2IC..(esp when its dictated where my job scope lies..) ..both of these jobs are different! As with a policeman and a soldier and a teacher and a clerk and a librarian and even the bangla worker...all of them may possibly earn the same amount of allowance but the demands are different. Even in the same race..u compete in different lanes. The only legal direct contacts u can have with the one beside u is one of visual and sound. And what affects u is all mental..u control ur mind. Who can u blame? So why compare and be miserable?!
If u had read my earliest entry..regarding the Dalai Lama and the art of being happy at work.. one shld not compare. In the end its ur choice..ur mind is in ur control ( it should be).. U choose whether or not u want to be happy at work..u choose whether or not u want to BE happy cause in EVERY situation..it ALWAYS comes to 2 choices..positive or negative. U can choose to view 3D, 2D or flat!! And don't blame others for it..to be a victim of circumstances is to be your own victim. BE strong..in the end..life is about maintaining good relations. (In the working world..its abt making use of relations!!!)
I personally believe..u will be more willing to sacrifice for a friend than person u call boss..That's how i train my men and behave with them too. As a friend..and a leader, since that post was commissioned upon u..sincerity breaks barriers. (Its proven to me with Naj too..but i wun elaboarate on that. ) Here's what i got to pen down from my thoughts..
"Friendship..the reason to sacrifice..and the key to bonds. Friends are the closest thing u have besides family.. Basically, relationships starts with bonds..of friendship or love. Its an unwritten contract of trust, respect, sacrifice and partnership. Ultimately..your loved ones..when taken away the bonds of emotions and desires..is a close friend. Friendship is the foundation of every relationship."
-vzoj
So here i talk about friends and realtionships as well as a point on life improvement. Hope u reflect and share my perspective. Let's summarise..its no point comparing life and work if u are unhappy abt it. Everything in life comes down to 2 choices..u choose whether to be positive or pessimistic. Friends..its about maintaining good relationships. If it doesnt appeal to u..its ok..ITS A FREE WORLD BOSS!!
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